I did a little jig when I found out Don't Ask, Don't Tell had been repealed. It's a big weekend for gay equality and it gave me hope in a more personal matter.
DOMA (Defense of Marriage Act) keeps the federal government from recognizing gay marriages performed in individual states. So even if Alex and I tied the knot in Massachusetts, it wouldn't be legal in Texas, but that's completely opposite for a straight couple. And that is just one of 1,138 rights we are denied.
But yes, I did say marriage. It's something we've been talking about, joking about. Neither one of us really believed in it yet both of us want it now. We've talked hand-binding ceremonies, bridesmaids and "best maids," and, of course, the dresses. I blame a bad episode of Bridezillas.
Alex does not consider herself butch but there's no way she's wearing a dress. Although, her mother is adamantly against her wearing white Tripp pants down the aisle, I don't think a suit is enough. I've read a few blogs and magazine articles about the appropriateness of clothing but your wedding day should be about your style, right?
Anyway, I fell in love with her while she was wearing those pants.
As for me, I want the big, statement dress with tulle and frills. Don't ask me about color or designer, I'm not there yet. I am, however, partial to the length and shape of this Alexander McQueen.
We're gonna look like quite a pair... at some point. First, we have to buy the engagement rings and even those are going to be special - neither of us want the solitaire diamond. She likes Mystic Fire Topaz and I like Garnets.
people who believe that there needs to be religion in marriage never seem to be against men and women atheists tying the knot. There's separation of church and state for a reason! MAKES ME ANGRAH!!
ReplyDeleteAnd congrats on your possible upcoming engagement? Ahah